(Edited from contributions to the Stockings HQ discussion forum)
Like every other man that visits here, I live for women in stockings. The only thing that can make a perfect woman more perfect is when she's wearing stockings, a garter belt, and high heels. The problem is that I already have a girlfriend. She's absolutely perfect except that she almost never wears stockings, especially not during sex. Do any of you out there know of any way I can possibly convince her that the stockings make her look even sexier? I could really use some help. I'd never want to lose her, but my life would be perfect if she started wearing stockings.
- Just ignore her sexually for while, now and again pointing out what a lovely lady goes by there and how you like those shoes in that store... Make her clear what it is you're interested in and she'll start thinking. Then go and buy her a pair of hold ups and put those in her drawer where she keeps her nylons. Wait and see...
- My suggestion is to try and make her see the hygienic side to not wearing nylon close to her crotch. I'm no doctor but I've heard it's not good for the genitals. Also do a 'deal' with her, you do something you particularly don't want to do in exchange for her wearing stockings for a certain period of time, starting slowly then building up.
- Getting her to wear stockings and getting her to keep wearing stockings are two different things. Just be fair about it. During sex, ask her to wear them for 10 minutes. Iif she doesn't like it, she can take them off. But during that time, treat her really special, like she's never been treated before. Lay down the compliments real thick. Tell her how proud you are of her effort to do this for you. It might work. It did for me.
Or, agree YOU will wear a pair with her. If that is what it takes. She might realize how much you want her to wear them. If she does agree, go for it, whatever it takes!
If she is against you looking at adult mags or web sites of women in stockings, let her know you do this or leave a mag lying around. Tell her you enjoy these images and it is the only way you can see a lady in stockings. She might oblige to regain some attention.
Just keep in mind...be fair.
- In my experience I have found only one woman of all those I dated willing to do it and appreciative of the 'benefits'. I was the second guy she dated that liked stockings and garters. The first could not have sex without her wearing them, which I think is a big problem on his part. With me the situation changed from me being comparable to the other fellas in her past to rising to the top of the list, pardon my pun. Her problem with him was she came home one day from work and he was wearing pantyhose of hers. He wrongly thought it would be a turn on to her, much to his surprise it was the opposite.
I do have a question, however. What happened in society that changed women's habits wearing nylons in general? Ghostly white legs especially in the middle of winter is so unsightly, but most women here in Toronto either are that way or wear thick tights which might as well be leotards or workout tights. Did Hollywood start this trend because to me without a tan it is gross. Comments please.
- If you're upfront without being demanding, you may succeed. My fiancée actually doesn't like anything going over her legs. I have been very patient (over a year's time), slowly giving her hints that garters and stockings (especially seamed and vintage) really turn me on. Waiting has paid off and she occasionally surprises me by wearing short skirts with stockings in public and teasing me. This is surprising since she is very conservative. Her rational is in a good relationship, both have to find ways to please each other.
- Next time you go shopping, while browsing through the women's clothing section with your fiancée, casually mention what type of outfit you like her to wear by pointing out clothing on display (better to be a medium length skirt). Next, if she says that she likes it too, tell her that it would really turn you on if SOMEDAY (not immediately) she would wear sexy hosiery with that outfit - then sneak in the words - "stockings... you know the ones that you hold up with garters". If she is in sync with you, play it up. If not, give it some time (like I did) and the next time you go shopping, try again. Or during intimate moments, just ask her... will she wear something sexy for you sometime. She should get the hint.
- Have you ever bought you fiancée any nylons at all? Does she have any suspender belts? Why not buy her some really nice ones, you may have to shell out quite a bit but it would be worth it. Make a real fuss of her. Take her out to dinner, dancing and give her the present. Better still buy her a complete set of nice lingerie and stockings together. That way it's a real gift for all of her ,not just her legs!
- Approach it the following way (for I just went through this). Get on the topic of what she likes and dislikes. Find out what turns her crank. Some women like men in suits for instance. Make sure it is not something you already do for then you have no bargaining power. Once you determine it approach it the following way. "I know you like men in <> and that is not really my thing. I have a thing for women in stockings and garters and am not sure if that is your thing. Tell you what, let's go out <> for dinner, I will wear a suit, you wear the stockings and make each other happy!!"
- I can't understand why your girlfriend refuses to wear stockings, especially during sex. An ideal woman is a woman who is a lady in public and a slut when she in bed. While wearing stockings you can have the best of both these worlds.
I always feel classy and sexy while wearing my stockings under my dress. It makes me feel like I'm withholding a secret that every guy would like to know. Since I wore stockings the first few times during sex, I could never go without the attention I get when I don't have them on. After I climax a few times my toes usually tingle. While wearing stockings, this sensation is many times more intense. Also pointing my toes while my legs are in the air will drive any guy insane. When I did try it, I noticed the attention he gave me before, during and especially after sex. He was very proud of me. Now I can't seem the take them off. Oh by the way, your advice, get her to read this.
- That is GREAT advice, Sharon! And to anyone else who is wondering how things went, here it is: My girlfriend, Karen, got home early yesterday. After a while I got up the courage to talk to her about the stockings. First I asked her if she had any fetishes or anything that she thinks I'd look sexy in. She couldn't think of anything, but I still said that for her, I'd do anything.
Then, because I figured it would be easier than saying I wanted her to wear stockings, I gave her a gift, a pair of black stockings and a garter belt. She told me how nice they were and gave me a kiss. Then I guess she put 2 and 2 together and she asked if I expected her to wear them while we were having sex. I asked her to try it just once, that I'd do anything if she did, and basically did a civilized form of begging. Then I gave her Sharon's message, which I printed up, and said that I was a lot like the guy she was talking about. She finally gave in and said she'd try it just once. Tonight's the night, so wish me luck and hope that she likes them!