(Edited from contributions to the Stockings HQ discussion forum)
- After several postings and some cross words on the matter I just thought I'd show my support for the many guys who frequent this forum who like to wear hosiery.
For your information I am not a guy masquerading as a girl but am a 35 year-old woman who is married to the most wonderful man who happens to 'have a thing' for wearing nylons. I do not have a problem with this, in fact I actively encourage it. His performance 'in the sack' is ten times better when we are wearing nylons than when we are not. What girl wouldn't turn that down? A fantastic husband and wonderful lover who just happens to get a kick from dressing in some things which have been labelled for the fairer sex. Would any guys out there have a problem with their girls wearing jeans or boxer shorts or socks? I don't think so! Come on girls lets give the guys a break and show our support, after all I think I'm right in saying that it was a man who invented nylon in the first place.
- Amen and thank you! Those of us who do wear them appreciate the support! You are 100% right; I don't give it a second thought when my wife wears my boxers, briefs or anything else of mine for that matter.
Not only did a man invent nylon but hosiery was initially a man's product, including all the fancy and dandy types! It wasn't until the early 20th century that it moved towards women and soon after was thought to be a woman's only product.
-.I am all for us guys wearing them and would do so more openly if our society would allow it. I know we can't change society but maybe we can make it more acceptable. I agree wearing nylons in the sack is a lot more exciting then none at all. - Just for the record, Wolford produces a line of tights for men and do a search on Comfilon and you will find a legwear product for men (sheer and opaque) that is a pantyhose product with a draft front for convenience.
While I personally don't wear a garter belt and stockings, I have tried 'hold ups' (thigh-highs) for convenience. It's all a matter of personal preference.
- Frankly I can't see what all the fuss is about re men wearing stockings or pantyhose. If they liked murdering people or setting fire to buses then their actions would be hurting others... wearing 'unusual' clothing is their own business and hurts nobody. Although I don't wear them myself, if I met a guy who was I would be interested rather than revolted or offended.
Incidentally, from my limited knowledge I understand that men who wear 'women's' clothes don't seem to suffer loss of virility in the process. This reminds me of a classic scene from one of Michael Moorcock's Jerry Cornelius books (A Cure For Cancer)... after making love to a woman while dressed in a girdle, suspenders, stockings and bra, the fortunate object of his affections cries 'Ach - at last - a man who is a man!'
- I know I am not alone. Many men love the pleasant feeling of wearing nylon stockings. However, nearly all such men hide the fact and are even filled with shame and guilt over it. GET OVER IT GUYS! Women have been demanding, even vehemently at times, the right to wear whatever they want, no matter how masculine or un-attractive the attire may be. At the same time these same women are quick to ridicule any man that wears anything out of the typical 'approved' masculine attire. Why are we putting up with this double standard?
Most guys think other men will think ill of them, call them faggots or sissies or odd-balls if they suspect the guy likes the feel of anything feminine on his body. I have found that most guys don't really care these days. I have stopped hiding the fact that I wear nylon stockings regularly, and except for some mild mostly good-natured teasing, no one has made any fuss over it. Of course some have assumed it means I am gay, but I simply let it be known that it has nothing to do with my sexual preference, just simply something I prefer to wear. No one has really had a problem with it. Sometimes I just say it is my way of protesting against women wearing mannish ugly shoes and pants all the time. Of course there has been some ridicule from those that always find something about me to dislike anyway. putting up with that is but a small price to pay for the freedom from worrying about our stockings being noticed or always having to wear socks over the nice sheer hosiery.
Last time I went for my annual physical, I even wore nylons. I wore a simple black leather garterbelt and black men's nylon briefs. I told the doctor before I disrobed that I was wearing rather unusual underwear so not to be shocked. He simply said it didn't matter to him, that he had seen just about everything under the sun. When he saw me in my stockings he was curious and asked several questions, before admitting he had always wanted to try on panties and stockings but never got up the nerve. I suggested he get past his inhibitions and at least try it once. We have not discussed it since, but I bet he has done so!
There have even been a few cases of fellows that chose to wear skirts, nylons and high heels to work with otherwise male shirt and tie, so no attempt at all to appear as women. When they were ordered by their employers to stop it, they protested to the extent that the employers were told by the courts or their attorneys that they had no legal basis to enforce that. In at least one case, one employer was warned to tread lightly on the gentleman in other possible disciplinary matters, lest it appear to be discrimination directed at his choice of attire. The legal thinking is that if a company were to enforce a 'gender specific' dress code for men that required only traditional 'Masculine' attire, it would open up a hornets nest as to what women are wearing in the workplace.
Be storng guys, and wear what you like with confidence and self-assurance and tell anyone that objects to let you tell them how to dress!
- Couldn't agree more. I only wish that I worked in an environment where stocking wearing for guys was more acceptable but unfortunately I have to confine my pleasure to home and under trouser with socks activities. My wife completely accepts and encourages it. Am I alone in having such a supportive and caring partner who also has a passion for proper nylons?
- I am a male who enjoys seeing stockings (and other traditional garb) on women, but have never desired to wear them myself. If I encounter another man wearing them, my reaction is, essentially, one of indifference.
When evaluating people, I am more likely to want to know about their sense of humour, personality, mutual likes and dislikes, etc... and I don't give a damn what kind of underwear or hosiery they prefer (unless, of course, they are a potential sexual partner).
A person willing to deal with ridicule, persecution or other negative responses in order to assert their individuality is more likely than not to be the sort of individual I would find interesting... and many CDs, of course, fit this mould.
I have never had any desire to call a stocking-wearing man a 'faggot', 'queer' or whatever other words you have encountered. All that would do is to reveal my ignorance, since cross-dressers are usually heterosexual. I have a number of homosexual friends and aquaintances, and NONE of them cross-dress.
- I wanted to add something here that I really haven't seen on the board. As a man, I started wearing stockings and tights about 18 years ago while getting frisky with my girlfriend, who suggested it as a fun and kinky game while we were home.
After that relationship ended (three years), I put that all aside. About 10 years later, while on a ski trip and dealing with my aching legs, a ski coach mentioned that a lot of people, men included, wear tights under their ski pants for extra support and comfort. I tried it soon after and it was true! I have done ever since.
After that, I decided to try wearing them on a regular basis since my job keeps me on my feet and lo and behold, they work wonders (admittedly I wear the support type) and it made a big difference. My wife has been incredibly supportive about this and I really don't see any reason why men can't enjoy them and the comfort they provide. As a wonderful by-product, many women have complimented me on how nice I look and the fit of my pants. They certainly do make my shoes fit better after a long day on my feet.
I believe in supporting the hosiery business (including tights) to make sure that stockings still exist. I have tried some of the support stay-ups but they aren't as good (for me).
- Obviously we are dealing with a subject that needs to be handled carefully. Best not to dive in feet first and upset your partner but take things slowly. I can speak from experience that the softly softly approach in 'coming out' to my loved one about my passion for wearing nylons etc proved a lot more successful than with my ex when I used the ' I'll wear what I want to' method.
By using the right approach I now have the daily pleasure of getting out of bed, showering and slipping into sheer stockings at the same time as my wife! We also spend weekday evenings with our stockinged feet up in front of the telly!