| What look do you really want? |
Fri, 11 April 2008 20:43  |
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It's clear from many posts that there's a huge variation in preferences among SHQ men --from thongs and hold-ups to 50's corselettes girdles, bullet bras, etc.. So I would like to ask the men to express what they would REALLY prefer a woman to wear, in terms of stockings and underwear --in under 70 words. In other words, your IDEAL hosiery and underclothing for a woman. It may be just a dream, but please be honest.
The ladies are of course free to join in, either to hurl insults at the men for their unacceptable desires or to say what their own ideal wear would be - again in under 70 words.
Anghared
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Fri, 11 April 2008 20:44  |
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This is going to be fun!!
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| Re: What look do you really want? |
Fri, 11 April 2008 20:52 |
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Here goes!
In either black or white, from the fifties:
Triumph perlon longline bullet bra
Triumph perlon high waist girdle
Full briefs
Black RHTs, or Grey RHTS with contrast welt if undies are white
Satin full slip
Medium to high heels
(Perlon is fantastically fine weave nylon. Non stretch, slightly sheer in lighter colours, and supersmooth to the touch ... )
Going for cold shower.
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| Re: What look do you really want? |
Fri, 11 April 2008 21:24 |
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| anghared wrote on Fri, 11 April 2008 20:43 |
It's clear from many posts that there's a huge variation in preferences among SHQ men --from thongs and hold-ups to 50's corselettes girdles, bullet bras, etc.. So I would like to ask the men to express what they would REALLY prefer a woman to wear, in terms of stockings and underwear --in under 70 words. In other words, your IDEAL hosiery and underclothing for a woman. It may be just a dream, but please be honest.
The ladies are of course free to join in, either to hurl insults at the men for their unacceptable desires or to say what their own ideal wear would be - again in under 70 words.
Anghared
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"your IDEAL hosiery and underclothing for a woman" but be ready to be insulted if your desires are deemed unacceptable by certain women in here..
I don't think i'll bother thanks.
[Updated on: Fri, 11 April 2008 21:25]
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| Re: What look do you really want? |
Fri, 11 April 2008 21:58 |
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It seems to me that the men here are more interested in satisfying themselves than they are satisfying their partners. Does the word comfort mean anything to you guys?
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| Re: What look do you really want? |
Fri, 11 April 2008 22:03 |
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| EllenMurphy wrote on Fri, 11 April 2008 21:58 |
It seems to me that the men here are more interested in satisfying themselves than they are satisfying their partners.
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I'd agree with that; I find it really frustrating.
Oh, and that their personal fetish is more important than anything else. I know almost as many men with a TIGHTS fetish as with a stocking fetish, so stop talking as though you speak for all men/women/sheep when you talk about your love of this that and the other.
Back to the topic: my favourite day-to-day lingerie tends along the Panache Inferno bra (those things are a god-send), girdle and non-stretch stockings (RHTs or FFS), my knickers remain my business alone. I have some truly stunning sets of lingerie for special occasions but no suspender belts that match some of them.
I like to see other women in lingerie that fits and enhances them but I'm not prescriptive about what that will be (as it differs for every woman).
EL
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Fri, 11 April 2008 22:03 |
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Comfort is fine but if this site was titled "SuitandTrousersHQ" I'm sure you ladies would have some requests that were just as uncomfortable.
Remember, its not just men who design women's clothes!
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| Re: What look do you really want? |
Fri, 11 April 2008 22:08 |
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| stockingslover2008 wrote on Fri, 11 April 2008 22:03 |
Comfort is fine but if this site was titled "SuitandTrousersHQ" I'm sure you ladies would have some requests that were just as uncomfortable.
Remember, its not just men who design women's clothes!
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There are plenty of chastity belt forums (and those belts are largely for men). 
EL
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| Re: What look do you really want? |
Fri, 11 April 2008 22:10 |
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| EdinburghLady wrote on Fri, 11 April 2008 22:08 |
| stockingslover2008 wrote on Fri, 11 April 2008 22:03 |
Comfort is fine but if this site was titled "SuitandTrousersHQ" I'm sure you ladies would have some requests that were just as uncomfortable.
Remember, its not just men who design women's clothes!
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There are plenty of chastity belt forums (and those belts are largely for men).
EL
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No need. We are already in one it would seem. It appears to me that this particular topic was "setup", in order for a few disgruntled ladies to get back at the scourge of the earth that is men.  
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| Re: What look do you really want? |
Fri, 11 April 2008 22:16 |
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I'm not getting back at men, but do you deny that this forum is a little demeaning to women at times? There are people of quality here, but many others who are just looking for something to titillate themselves and will be insulting to a lot of the women on here who (shock horror) wear stockings purely for their own pleasure or sense of style.
EL
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| Re: What look do you really want? |
Fri, 11 April 2008 22:24 |
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| EdinburghLady wrote on Fri, 11 April 2008 22:16 |
I'm not getting back at men, but do you deny that this forum is a little demeaning to women at times? There are people of quality here, but many others who are just looking for something to titillate themselves and will be insulting to a lot of the women on here who (shock horror) wear stockings purely for their own pleasure or sense of style.
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That argument is as old as the chicken and the egg. There are also a lot of women on here who lean on this very argument with almost every post which proves extremely tiring for someone like me who is a fan of women in stockings; but simply cannot understand why I have to justify my views to the "stockings-police" on here every time I make a comment, so as not to be seen as a Neanderthal, knuckle dragging male, who God forbid should even get slightly turned on by a female in stockings..
The world waits to turn..
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Fri, 11 April 2008 23:46 |
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This is extremely interesting, but also rather depressing. My question was designed to find out, from genuine curiosity, what different men would see as ideal --their fantasy-wear, if you like. But as soon as a man honestly responded, he was leapt on by women, as if he was demanding that women wear those clothes for him.
Perhaps I was wrong to invite women to participate. I would still like to know what different men desire in our clothing, as often merely a fantasy, an unattainable ideal. (Though all praise to the wives and partners who show understanding and some willingness to please their man.)
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| Re: What look do you really want? |
Sat, 12 April 2008 00:05 |
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Hi Anghared,
Mr B says Fully fashioned nylons every time, any time, all the time! 
I prefer the element of suprise! he just never knows when or where i'm going to wear them 
Hope you are well
MissB xx
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Sat, 12 April 2008 00:38 |
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Thanks, Misbehave! Brings us back to the subject. And my better half (only joking!) says black FF's, but really any dark stockings that have wide two-toned welts; not too high on the thighs; six-strap substantial suspender belt with metal clips, in black or red, and bullet bra. Tight panties, dark or coloured and not too brief. Black OB girdle fine too. He gets his ideal most of the time, except for the bullet bra, as I think my bosom is quite big enough already!
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Sat, 12 April 2008 00:54 |
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I hope that I'm not beat up too bad by the ladies, but thought I would express my opinion anyway. It's a very relevant topic. I love reading the forum and admiring the pics. I just wish I had more computer time. I have the greatest respect for the women that unselfishly allow us to admire their pics and undoubtedly are very secure with their appearance and sexuality. I thank you!
To me, I'm at the age where these pics truly do stimulate my libido. More importantly, it takes me back to my high school years, and the women I dated after leaving school. My first wife. All pleasant memories, however most are bittersweet.
"Whenever particular people congregate" (My father smoked Pall Mall cigarettes) one will meet and form opinions of diverse people. Their thoughts on various subjects will cover the spectrum. What I'm trying to say is that one person's demeaning is another's admiring. It's the inherent nature of man that we are all special and different. There are limits, however, and each individual must set them for themselves.
Now, back to the discussion. Although I've never seen a women in person(to my knowledge)wearing OBG's with stockings(FF or RHT), I love the look. I may be inclined to enjoy viewing RHT's more than FF because that's what the girls mostly wore in the sixties. I love looking at women in hose wearing those shoes that look like ballet shoes. I admire women's feet. I think they are beautiful.
Anghared, thanks for the opportunity to respond, it's a good topic.
Rowlf
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| Re: What look do you really want? |
Sat, 12 April 2008 02:53 |
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good rowlf - nice calming words.
but no-one (apart from me - big up me!) is following anghared's brief: nice and simple description of the ideal look.
SO - as anghared said - less than seventy words: what are the ideal ingredients of the ideal stockings look ?
SImple! 70 words! No discussion!!
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| Re: What look do you really want? |
Sat, 12 April 2008 03:04 |
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My ideal look involving a woman's clothing under a dress or skirt is a 6-strap suspender belt and FFs with Cuban heel. Color choices:
Brown (chocolate)
Bronze (Eleganti version)
Sheer black
Sheer black w/ red seam
Tan w/ black seam/heel/etc
I'm indifferent about the shoe design/style (am I one of the only men who believes that high heels are dangerous for women and thus totally unnecessary?), and without underwear is my preference.
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Mike
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| Re: What look do you really want? |
Sat, 12 April 2008 05:28 |
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| anghared wrote on Fri, 11 April 2008 23:46 |
This is extremely interesting, but also rather depressing. My question was designed to find out, from genuine curiosity, what different men would see as ideal --their fantasy-wear, if you like. But as soon as a man honestly responded, he was leapt on by women, as if he was demanding that women wear those clothes for him.
Perhaps I was wrong to invite women to participate. I would still like to know what different men desire in our clothing, as often merely a fantasy, an unattainable ideal. (Though all praise to the wives and partners who show understanding and some willingness to please their man.)
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After reading that, I think I will give it a go:
I absolutely LOVE women in black stockings pref 7/10 denier but in reality 10/15 denier will do. Favourite colours to see are black, barely black, chocolate, white and some nude (only with RHT black toes though). A thick or lacy welt. High heels 4 inch but higher in the bedroom. Pretty painted toes are a must with dark contrasting colours, or really bright/pale ones under white or nude stockings. Stockings or hold ups I do not mind, but must be worn quite high. Ankle chains, toe rings and small tattoos add to the allure of the nylon over and/or next to/them. For a bigger woman, a nice corset and OBG is still very sexy. Seeing a lady walk passed you in heels and seamed FF stockings allows you to dream! 
Sorry I’m slightly over 70 words (tried my best to condense it), but thanks anghared for the opportunity to express myself here without passing judgement. Thanks.
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Sat, 12 April 2008 08:07 |
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Wow, this so difficult to answer.
There are so many different female shapes, what looks great on one lady may look terrible on another, but I'll try anyway.
I like 10D dark stockings and suspenders, matching briefs and bra, preferably in sheer see through material, and 4 inch court shoes.
Hope that's OK.
BT
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Sat, 12 April 2008 09:04 |
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I have to "stick up" for men here and say I personally like to dress to please my man.I think choice can varies on mood and also your outfit to go on top!
My favourite is one coloured either black, white or red, deep suspender belts,g strings, underwired push up bras and sheer stockings with a deep top
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Sat, 12 April 2008 10:05 |
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My favourite has got to be black seamed hold up, ones with a really large band at the top preferably with a seam down back
topped up with a really skimpy thong and mathing bra.
Oh almost forgot high heels as well.
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Sat, 12 April 2008 12:18 |
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Daring to raise my head above the parapet in the hope of not getting it shot off here goes
I tend to go for 1950's influenced styles, preferring RHT or FFN nylons with traditional court shoes.Stylish, sophisticated,feminine lingerie not tarty.Peep hole bras and crotch less knickers just strike me as cheap.But most importantly 'She Who Is To Be Obeyed' must feel comfortable with what she is wearing otherwise she does not feel right.This effects our time together in an adverse way. 
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Sat, 12 April 2008 12:19 |
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Large knickers for me please.
And also.....
isn't it a bit rich being critical of guys 'likes'?
I think that was the question,correct?
Don't knock us for having little foibles.
That's what makes us so love able!
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| Re: What look do you really want? |
Sat, 12 April 2008 14:09 |
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| EllenMurphy wrote on Fri, 11 April 2008 21:58 |
It seems to me that the men here are more interested in satisfying themselves than they are satisfying their partners. Does the word comfort mean anything to you guys?
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That it some conclusion to draw from what was quite a simple question.
Whilst making demands is wrong, expressing a preference is harmless enough. Plus it works both ways - from my experience, women have just as many preferences as men & these preferences are about what they like to see, not what a man likes or feels comfortable in. So why is it a problem when a man has a preference with regard to lingerie/hosiery?
To answer the original question, I like variety - in style, colour, material etc. I do prefer stockings to holdups and I'm not a fan of peephole bras, crotchless knickers, bullet bras or leather stuff. Also not keen on sports underwear. Fishnets can be very sexy. Sometimes 'tarty' (hate that word) is great, at others, sophisticated is the bees knees. I also find jumpers very sexy on women.
and on the other side of the coin...
I prefer to wear briefs or jockey-shorts for comfort, but my girlfriend likes silk boxers - which is fine, as that is her preference.
Too much info, I know.... 
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| Re: What look do you really want? |
Sat, 12 April 2008 16:21 |
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Black FFs with seams and cuban heels
Black satin waspie or deep suspender belt (max 6 straps)
Black high-heel mules
Black satin elbow-length gloves
Pill-box hat with lace veil
No knickers
No bra
Heaven.
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Sat, 12 April 2008 16:46 |
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Since we arent being asked to describe "comfortable" clothes for women to wear...I like corsets, waspies, tightly constricted waists, FF stockings, very high heels, transparent panties. Black is always good, but tan, red are lovely too.
"Ideal" fantasies are so nice to sidle up to on cold, wintry nights.......D.N. Stuefloten
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Sat, 12 April 2008 17:53 |
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There is no need for any man to feel apologetic about answering my question honestly. As DNS points out, I didn't ask what men think women feel comfortable in; nor what would give women sexual pleasure. I asked what would make you, as a man, feel 'WOW! that's just my taste!'
Those responding are NOT saying their fetish is more important than anything else, nor are they saying that every man shares their taste.
For that matter, we know that women are unique too, and some find wearing tight corsets, for example, comfortable or at least enjoyable to wear. And almost every woman on this site, by definition, enjoys wearing stockings and suspenders, which we know a large majority of women would shudder at, as being 'uncomfortable'.
So --men-- please carry on telling us, if you feel like it.
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Sat, 12 April 2008 18:33 |
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My ideal look involving a woman's clothing under a dress or skirt is a 6-strap suspender belt and FFs with Cuban heel. Color choices:
Brown (chocolate)
Bronze (Eleganti version)
Sheer black
Sheer black w/ red seam
Tan w/ black seam/heel/etc
I'm indifferent about the shoe design/style (am I one of the only men who believes that high heels are dangerous for women and thus totally unnecessary?), and without underwear is my preference.
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I agree, Mike. I loathe high heels and your underwear choice is quite reaiistic.
I don't dress to please my man. Partly because I don't really know what pleases him. And that's being quite honest!
What I would like a man to wear to please me.
Let me think.
A crisp, white shirt with cufflinks, not too flashy.
A nice pair of well cut trousers, not the shapeless ones you see older men wear and nothing in that very pale grey which is almost on the cusp of being beige. Nothing ages a man faster than that shade of grey... horrid colour.
Dark socks and matching black shoes, no trainers or white socks.
Tie.
Underwear for a man has to be clean with no holes in it other than the necessary one. My other half had a nice pair of sheer boxers that he doesn't wear anymore. Pity.
No vests or t-shirts under that lot.
And for pity's sake, none of those clumpy loafer type shoes in dark brown or little brown (which looks like pale cat poo). Those shoes should be taken out and thrown away. They are an affront to style.
Little or no jewellery. A watch and a ring should suffice.
And none of this using womens hair straighteners on your hair. What's the matter with you?
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Sat, 12 April 2008 18:35 |
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I have to say some of these answers are very predictable. All plunge bras and g-strings. No imagination there.
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Sat, 12 April 2008 18:41 |
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Plenty of imagination i feel ,the question was asked so dont be surprised by the results
lets face it women dont wear stockings for themselves they are worn to attract and please their partners
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Sat, 12 April 2008 18:45 |
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| andysffs wrote on Sat, 12 April 2008 18:41 |
Plenty of imagination i feel ,the question was asked so dont be surprised by the results
lets face it women dont wear stockings for themselves they are worn to attract and please their partners
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I have to disagree with you there. I wear stockings because i enjoy the feeling of them on my legs. The added bonus is that my husband likes them also
Crystal
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Sat, 12 April 2008 18:48 |
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Quite a thin reply
There are plenty of tights out there that will feel exactly the same as stockings
Wear to please my man is far more apt
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Sat, 12 April 2008 19:41 |
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| andysffs wrote on Sat, 12 April 2008 18:48 |
Quite a thin reply
There are plenty of tights out there that will feel exactly the same as stockings
Wear to please my man is far more apt
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You wear them a lot do you?
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Sat, 12 April 2008 19:53 |
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I'm a bit late coming to this thread - PC problems .
To add my two penn'orth, I'm not all that keen on ladies wearing thongs, g-strings and half-cup bras myself.
When I first noticed that girls really were different - a very long time ago! - nearly all women and girls wore stockings, almost always with suspenders (I understand some old ladies used to wear garters, but I can't say I have any first-hand knowledge of whether or not that's true  !)
More often than not, the suspenders were attached to a light girdle, generally called a roll-on - around these parts, anyway - and the girls usually wore full-cut panties (even the bikini panties around then were what some might consider 'big knickers' these days) and 'Glamour Guinea' bras were the very latest of fashion! Tights were only normally worn by dancers and ice-skaters and they cost the earth!
Wonderful days - and we are all the result of the things we have known and loved - I just wish all these lovely items were back in fashion again!
And if anyone disagrees with me - hey, that's fine - we're all allowed our opinions and preferences here  !
lacewing.
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Sat, 12 April 2008 21:22 |
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Lacewing AGREED  enough said ....
Andy
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Sat, 12 April 2008 22:00 |
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i prefer the subtle/sexy look.
skirts
dark hosiery
an occasional glimpse of stocking-top or garter-strap
slips (oh my god, i love a well-fitted slip on a woman)
a lady doesn't have to show a lot, in order to be sexy. it's more in HOW she show what she has/wears that determines the appeal.
i guess a lot of my preferences are out-dated, but then again, so am i.
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Sat, 12 April 2008 23:34 |
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| skirtman wrote on Sat, 12 April 2008 22:00 |
i prefer the subtle/sexy look.
skirts
dark hosiery
an occasional glimpse of stocking-top or garter-strap
slips (oh my god, i love a well-fitted slip on a woman)
a lady doesn't have to show a lot, in order to be sexy. it's more in HOW she show what she has/wears that determines the appeal.
i guess a lot of my preferences are out-dated, but then again, so am i.
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Who is to say what is sexy and what is not. It is down to the individual. Everyone is different....what a boring world we would live in if we were all the same. But i do tend to agree with this sentiment "a lady doesn't have to show a lot, in order to be sexy. it's more in HOW she show what she has/wears that determines the appeal"
Crystal xx
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Sun, 13 April 2008 00:20 |
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| Mich wrote on Sat, 12 April 2008 18:33 |
I agree, Mike. I loathe high heels and your underwear choice is quite reaiistic.
I don't dress to please my man. Partly because I don't really know what pleases him. And that's being quite honest!
What I would like a man to wear to please me.
Let me think.
A crisp, white shirt with cufflinks, not too flashy.
A nice pair of well cut trousers, not the shapeless ones you see older men wear and nothing in that very pale grey which is almost on the cusp of being beige. Nothing ages a man faster than that shade of grey... horrid colour.
Dark socks and matching black shoes, no trainers or white socks.
Tie.
Underwear for a man has to be clean with no holes in it other than the necessary one. My other half had a nice pair of sheer boxers that he doesn't wear anymore. Pity.
No vests or t-shirts under that lot.
And for pity's sake, none of those clumpy loafer type shoes in dark brown or little brown (which looks like pale cat poo). Those shoes should be taken out and thrown away. They are an affront to style.
Little or no jewellery. A watch and a ring should suffice.
And none of this using womens hair straighteners on your hair. What's the matter with you?
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Hmmmmm, 2 things Mich, 1) You mentioned in one of your other posts how you went out to dinner in heels, here you say you "loathe" them? (no biggie, just posts contradict themselves..)
2) For one of the aforementioned SHQ "Stocking-Police" and someone who normally reacts in uproar whenever a (cave)man like myself describes what he adores about women who wear stockings, you seem to have quite a FEW preferences for what you like to see on a man.. I'm glad you have been spared being burnt at the stake for your comments, unlike some of us poor men in the past
For the record, I agree with you, that is how I would normally dress formally anyway!
Kudos
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Sun, 13 April 2008 00:24 |
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Ha Ha brilliant one rule for one springs to mind
lets face it we are all diffrent who are we to criticise somebody else for their particular views, as long as what they are doing is legal then they should be allowed to air their views/opinions without fear of being attacked
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Sun, 13 April 2008 02:27 |
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| andysffs wrote on Sun, 13 April 2008 00:24 |
Ha Ha brilliant one rule for one springs to mind
lets face it we are all diffrent who are we to criticise somebody else for their particular views, as long as what they are doing is legal then they should be allowed to air their views/opinions without fear of being attacked
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Andy,
I have refrained from criticising your taste in this, but I would happily criticise your English. Please punctuate your posts.
And no tights I have ever found feel exactly like stockings. You don't really find non-stretch tights or tights that move across your thighs in the same way that stockings do. Nor do tights feel like garter belts or girdles.
Noone sees my stocking tops or suspender belt, so what man am I wearing them to please? As far as most people know, I could just as easily be wearing tights. I wear stockings for myself and noone else.
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Sun, 13 April 2008 06:51 |
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I find that stockings and my Rago coreslette are really quite comfortable. I think a FF cuban heel in black is probably my favorite. I like dressing well and I like it when well behaved me appreciate it. Men making demands is really unacceptable, even if he's demanding something I like. It's just not right to treat a lady that way.
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Sun, 13 April 2008 07:50 |
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Plenty of imagination i feel ,the question was asked so dont be surprised by the results
lets face it women dont wear stockings for themselves they are worn to attract and please their partners
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I find it a little insulting that some men think that women aren't self-possessed enough to make clothing choices that please themselves without regard to their boyfriends.
I started wearing stockings between boyfriends. I dont wear stockings as often around my boyfriend specifically because i dont want him to start thinking i dress up for him... Which actually doesn't even work out in my favor since i love wearing stockings. I did wear stockings today and ihave worn them three times this week. Since i dont live with my bf, he only saw me in them once. People who do see me wearing them in public have no idea what they are so its nothing special to them.
In actuality, though my bf does enjoy my stockings, he can take them or leave them as it only really matters to him the person who is doing the wearing or not wearing.
Is this enough to prove that i wear stockings for myself and not my boyfriend?
Also, the quoted comment only goes to show that people assume that everyone likes what they like. NOT ALL MEN LIKE STOCKINGS. Shocking perhaps. But true. This means that not all women who wear stockings are dating someone who actually cares about stockings at all.
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Sun, 13 April 2008 11:17 |
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Nice post Landwhale I doubt you'll convince the cave-man element on here that what you say is true, but then again - not many care what they think anyway - and neither should you
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Sun, 13 April 2008 12:09 |
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I started wearing stockings between boyfriends. I dont wear stockings as often around my boyfriend specifically because i dont want him to start thinking i dress up for him... Which actually doesn't even work out in my favor since i love wearing stockings.
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That sounds like a lose-lose scenario then. If you are certain that he is interested in you and not just you in stockings, why make a point of not wearing them so often? 
Obviously, you should wear whatever you want, but what are you proving by denying yourself (and maybe him) pleasure?
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| Re: What look do you really want? |
Sun, 13 April 2008 14:15 |
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My own answer is: variety, surprise and an extrovert mood. It all starts with skirts. They are deeply sexy in their own right, publicly protective and respectable one moment, revealing and accessible the next. A flirty skirt (e.g. slit / flared / mini / tight) does both at the same time. And underneath, it can be all kinds of things, from glamorous, silky and Lacey, to see-through, cheap-and-trashy, skimpy, or simple 'girlie' neat white cotton. A jumbly combination of any of these is sometimes just as exciting as a set of carefully chosen matching items. And much though I adore stockings, dare I confess on this site, that white ankle or knee-high socks can do it too. So surprise me!
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| Re: What look do you really want? |
Sun, 13 April 2008 16:44 |
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As Melmoth points out, Landwhale's comment is bizarre. Imagine if a guy said, 'I love wearing boxers, and my girlfriend loves me in them; but when I'm with her I mostly wear y-fronts, which I don't really like, in case she thinks I'm dressing to please her.'
More honest and rewarding, I'd have thought, for her to say to him, 'I'm wearing stockings because I love wearing them. If you also enjoy seeing me in them, then that's great.'
Or would that be too simple and logical?
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| Re: What look do you really want? |
Sun, 13 April 2008 16:59 |
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| anghared wrote on Sun, 13 April 2008 16:44 |
As Melmoth points out, Landwhale's comment is bizarre. Imagine if a guy said, 'I love wearing boxers, and my girlfriend loves me in them; but when I'm with her I mostly wear y-fronts, which I don't really like, in case she thinks I'm dressing to please her.'
More honest and rewarding, I'd have thought, for her to say to him, 'I'm wearing stockings because I love wearing them. If you also enjoy seeing me in them, then that's great.'
Or would that be too simple and logical?
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Here here! It was my understanding that this post "What look do you really want?" was created by a woman with a view to finding out what look men really desire on A woman, as hypothetical or as far fetched as that may be, but without passing judgment.
It has now (as usual been turned into) "I don't wear stockings for anyone else but myself so you can't tell me what to wear!"
Well,
1) No one really cares what you do with yourself or your boyfriends/husbands.
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2) No one is actually asking ANY of you to wear anything for them.
3) See the opening title of this topic for a true understanding of the original question and who it was directed at.
As for the cave men comment, there will always be those that stand up to bullies and there will always be those spineless creatures that squirm about in the sand and dirt who are willing to lick up to anyone if it means promotion among their reptilian species.
Peace.
[Updated on: Sun, 13 April 2008 17:01]
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| Re: What look do you really want? |
Sun, 13 April 2008 18:13 |
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| stockingslover2008 wrote on Sun, 13 April 2008 16:59 |
As for the cave men comment, there will always be those that stand up to bullies and there will always be those spineless creatures that squirm about in the sand and dirt who are willing to lick up to anyone if it means promotion among their reptilian species.
Peace.
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Don't be too hard on yourself  Besides, you labelled yourself thus ... no-one else ....
10/10 for correct self-identification though ...
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| Re: What look do you really want? |
Sun, 13 April 2008 18:37 |
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| stockingslover2008 wrote on Sun, 13 April 2008 16:59 |
As for the cave men comment, there will always be those that stand up to bullies and there will always be those spineless creatures that squirm about in the sand and dirt who are willing to lick up to anyone if it means promotion among their reptilian species.
Peace.
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