| Telling my Wife? |
Mon, 28 April 2008 11:53  |
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Hi All,
I have decided that soon, when the time is right (is there ever a good time) that I am going to tell my wife about Emma, I'm not sure wether to tell her the extent of my wardrobe, I will have to wait and see what her reaction is like, but I do feel it is wrong to keep such a secret from the one person closest to me.
Various things have happened over the past year which may have already given her the idea that I enjoy female clothes, but I feel that the time is about right. I'm not expecting to be able wear around the house with two young daughters present, but it would be good not to hide my clothes away and to be open with my wife.
What has really triggered this is that the other day I noticed that she had a pair of my socks on, simple thing I know, but when I asked why she was wearing my socks and I also said "I don't go around wearing your clothes do I? her answer was to ask me what I'd like to wear...maybe one of my skimpy thongs? well maybe that was my opportunity, I declined her offer but she seemed quite playful at the thought of me wearing her lingerie so I think I should put it to the test.
Once I have told her, if her reaction is total horror I will offer to stop dressing as Emma, but I will explain that dressing is part of who I am and that I would like her to accept it, but if she doesn't I will stop (or at least try to), I feel it is unfair to keep such a huge secret to myself, this is not me feeling guilty, but wanting to be open and honest.
Any comments appreciated.
Love Emma XX
[Updated on: Mon, 28 April 2008 11:59]
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| Re: Telling my Wife? |
Mon, 28 April 2008 12:15  |
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Emma,
The only problem you may have is actually keeping that promise to stop. It may be better to promise to TRY to stop. (I speak from experience).
I really hope it goes well for you.
Love, Bev x
[Updated on: Mon, 28 April 2008 12:15]
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| Re: Telling my Wife? |
Mon, 28 April 2008 12:22 |
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Yup ! Could be one hell of a promise to keep.
Never heard of anyone here who managed to stop - permanantly.
Those who have "stopped" always seem to come back to it at a later date and, it seems, after a degree of suffering.
Hope she accepts it - could be lots of fun............ 
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| Re: Telling my Wife? |
Mon, 28 April 2008 13:12 |
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Thank you for these replies,
I understand completely what you are saying, I have tried many times to stop (purged all of my clothes) only to start buying again, If it is part of who you are then we probably cannot stop, which is the way that I hope my wife will look at it. I would not want to change the way that she is, I accept her for who she is and I hope that she will do the same.
Love Emma XX
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| Re: Telling my Wife? |
Mon, 28 April 2008 13:28 |
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Hi. I wish good luck to you. Your wife react can be what ever,
but yet it's better be honestly. I think that it's very hard to
keep secrets, which are part of own life. You can relax if know
what wife is thinking about your secret.
I know, it's not easy, but is it better be worried that wife
may find it out some other way. Be brave and tell. Also, that
you are not one and only who like about the same thing. She
may read these sides 
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| Re: Telling my Wife? |
Mon, 28 April 2008 14:58 |
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It is hard to keep secrets, even harder to explain them... my wife found my pic's on a hidden smart card for my camera... things are a little difficult at the moment.
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| Re: Telling my Wife? |
Mon, 28 April 2008 16:05 |
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I agree that the promise to stop if your wife doesn't like the idea of you wearing female clothes is going to be difficult, if not impossible to keep. I told my wife before we were married that I liked to wear sexy lingerie, and she was OK and remains OK, but cool about it. It does seem from what you have said that she may already know, or suspect, so perhaps she was offering you a chance to 'tell' her without any undue pressure?
I wish you luck, and hope you have a happy outcome!
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| Re: Telling my Wife? |
Mon, 28 April 2008 18:08 |
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Emma
I can only offer this from the point of view of a very good friend.
We used to go to secondary school together and became very good mates, doing matey things.
I used to go to a lot of "gay clubs" with friends of both sexes and all sexual orientation purely because they partied harder.
One night, eighteen years ago i was at a club when i noticed a lady that looked very familiar. The lady in question noticed me looking and quickly turned away with embarrassment. I went across to talk to her and realised that it was my friend. He was devastated that I should find him "dressed up"
I was very cool about the situation and we had many a chat about that night and still do today. We were often seen out on the town together in London's pubs and clubs, but now as we are older just as men enjoying a pint or a cocktail.
He is/was happily married to a lovely lady and had all the family trappings that any man would desire until last year he admitted to his wife that he enjoyed wearing ladies clothes.
She was so upset at first thinking that he must be gay but after 4 or 5 months came round to the idea and appeared happy about it, so long as he didn't dress in her presence.
In November he told me and his wife that he had stopped and had purged his wardrobe.
In February he broke his leg while skiing and early last month his wife went into the attic as he was unable to climb the loft ladder and found another set of female clothes; he had spent a fortune in the previous four months to renew his collection.
She is very upset as she believes he should have told her about his desires again and not try to hide it from her.
This time she appears to hold it against him but she does know that I too know so hopefully she might talk to me about it or maybe I can broker a meaningful conversation between them.
Good Luck and Best Wishes with whatever you choose
Matt
x
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| Re: Telling my Wife? |
Mon, 28 April 2008 20:10 |
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i told my girlfriend and it was one of the best things i've ever done, all round success, how every CD would want it is how life is!
i did tell after 3 months into the relationship so she could get off if she wanted to, that will probably be the difficult thing for you wife, i would drop massive hints over the next 3 / 4 months, as much as it hurts reduce what clothes you have got or get a selection to show her in a separte bag as the shock if she sees everything might be too much to handle, play it down then build it up.
goodluck let us know how you go on.
sara
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| Re: Telling my Wife? |
Tue, 29 April 2008 12:01 |
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I think you definately missed a trick their I would raise the subject again by asking your wife what clothes of hers she would like to see you wearing & take things slowly from their Judging from your post my guess is she wants you to wear a thong so do that 7 add stockings
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| Re: Telling my Wife? |
Tue, 29 April 2008 19:13 |
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Something tells me she already knows about your habit. You need to sort this ASAP. Look hard for the next opportunity to mention the socks and take it from there.
I'd start the conversation with the socks comment, when she asks what item of hers you would like to wear, respond with "I think you already know I have a few of my own darling".
Even if she doesn't already know, she may go along with you and the whole situation will quickly get much easier to deal with.
If she does already know, you'll be moments away from peace.
Be prepared to tell her that you would never want to lose her and will do as she requests in order to keep her happy. There's a huge chance she will accept your habit, to some degree.
Bite the bullet and go for it 
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| Re: Telling my Wife? |
Wed, 07 May 2008 04:33 |
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Really tricky one, Emma. I have been enjoying private dressing sessions for years, putting on my wife's clothing while she was at work and I had a day off etc. A couple of years ago, I had a similar experience to yours and agreed that I would like to try on a pair of her knickers. Like you, I had turned it down on a previou occasion, but decided this time I would go for it - I chose some lace high sided panties (not quite a thong but not knickers either?) they felt lovely and she liked the look (and feel!). Ever since I have been wearing prety panties (still have a selection of male ones for normal use, or when we are staying away with family etc.) We enjoy shopping for them together and it is quite fun discussing the various merits in lingerie shops (e.g. gusset too narrow to keep the dangly bits in check!)and some of the looks we/I get from female customers who seem to know why we are buying them are great.
Anyway,I digress. She doesn't dress up n stockings etc. much, just her 'play wear' as we call it, but she does have a few sussie belts and several pairs of stockings various. A while ago I broached the subject of me wearing her stockings some time and she reluctantly agreed. I took an early oportunity and, although she went along with it, she didn't really like it (it was only at home for a bit of sexy fun one evening). Anyway a little while later I had to go away on business for a week and asked if I could take a sussy belt and a pair of stockings for when I wanted a little 'solo fun' and she agreed. (I took my favourite pair of her black sheers with red seams and her black six strap - lush!) She has let me take them a few times now, but I still haven't plucked up the courage to talk to he about going the whole hogg. As far as I know, she is unaware of my love of dressing up, though like many of the commets you read here, she probably has at least an inkling.
How lovely it would be to spend time dressed sexily in her company - my fantasy is to get up early at the weekend and dress in a sexy maids outfit and bring her breakfast in bed then have to do some chores while she watches, then.... well, that's still a fantasy, but who knows.
Good luck.
Chris
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| Re: Telling my Wife? |
Wed, 07 May 2008 08:45 |
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Please be honest, She may have found some strange underwear and be worrying unduly about who it may belong to
From someone who's partner enjoys dressing up, it is much nicer for me to be involved rather than it be a naughty secret
Oh but do us all a favour and please stop looking better than us in stockings!!!
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| Re: Telling my Wife? |
Wed, 07 May 2008 11:24 |
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Thank you for your replies,
I have been waiting for the right moment to tell my wife or at least drop some hints and this morning she left for work early, I got the kids up, put the washing on, made the beds etc....then sent her a text message listing all of the things I had done, I finished off by saying that I felt like a proper little housewife and now all that I needed was a little sundress to wear in the garden... The reply immediately came back...YUM YUM. She then phoned me and when I asked her what she meant she replied that it sounded great.
My final answer was that if she buys me a sundress I will wear it... we shall see.
Love Emma
P.S. Now wearing a ditsy rara skirt, white camisole top, lacy bra and white thong, and 7 denier natural tan hold ups, too hot for much else.
XX
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| Re: Telling my Wife? |
Wed, 07 May 2008 11:31 |
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Can I ask where it is you keep all of your clothes?
Is it possible she has already found it and is trying to 'drop hints' or 'find the right time' to tell you?
You seem to wear so many different outfits I find it hard to believe she wouldn't notice something.
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| Re: Telling my Wife? |
Wed, 07 May 2008 11:45 |
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Hi Sally Anne,
A lot of the time I work from an office at home, which has a large roofspace with flooring and lighting etc., most of my clothes are kept here as I am the only one as far as I know who goes there.
My wife has made various off the cuff comments over the last few weeks and I do suspect that she knows, If she does then she really is being a true friend by giving me the opportunity to tell her in a playful way rather than the "we need to talk" scenario.
I will keep you posted.
Love Emma XX
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| Re: Telling my Wife? |
Wed, 07 May 2008 16:13 |
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I really hope it goes well for you Emma - and your outfit sounds lovely!
Bev x x
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| Re: Telling my Wife? |
Thu, 08 May 2008 01:37 |
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Hi Bev,
Thank you for your comments, always good to hear from you.
My wife phoned me yesterday lunchtime, as she usually does, I asked her if she had bought my sundress, she replied that it was too far to walk. When I told her that it was very hot in my office (home) she asked if I was wearing shorts, I said no, she then said "a skirt" I replied yes, she just giggled.
But when she returned home and came into the garden, the first thing that she said was " disapointing" when I asked her what she meant she replied "you've got trousers on"!
Now I really didn't know wether she was joking or not, when I asked her what she would do if I was wearing a skirt she replied that we'd known each other for long enough for it not to make any difference what I was wearing and if I wanted to wear a skirt that's fine.
Call me a coward, but I still didn't confess. But today when she phones me I will describe in detail what I'm wearing and it will be; a white bra, white thong, white lace top hold ups, black knee length skirt and a white camisole top. Depending on her reaction I will tell her when she gets home.
Love Emma XX
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| Re: Telling my Wife? |
Thu, 08 May 2008 08:15 |
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Emma, if on the phone the reaction is ok, why not ask her if she wants you to still be wearing it when she comes home?
Hope it goes well - at least it sounds as if you're not going to get the "pervert - get out" response!
Love, Bev x x
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| Re: Telling my Wife? |
Thu, 08 May 2008 14:50 |
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Well, it sounds like you're close to telling her and confirming what she already is guessing. Hope it all goes well.
A few months into my relationship with my wife (this is back in '04), she asked me if I ever wore stockings. We were already in the stage where she knew how much I like them and how happy I was that she would wear them for me. And I had vowed to be honest with her (or anyone I dated) with any questions that they asked. So I told her that I do like wearing stockings, and she was definitely taken aback. She knows that it's something I tend to do when we're apart (as we both have various business travel or solo travels).
I'm not sure if I would have initiated discussion about it with her, so it was definitely easier that she just asked.
x
Mike
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| Re: Telling my Wife? |
Fri, 09 May 2008 18:34 |
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Hi all. I told my wife last year and at first she found it a bit hard but now she is fine.I have my own stockings and lingerie and she will often do my makeup. Even dressed me as bride and in her best cocktail dress. I Hope it all goes well for you.
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| Re: Telling my Wife? |
Fri, 09 May 2008 22:41 |
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Hi Emma well you got some courage, i took this road some 24 years ago and all didnt work well for me. Just be careful please. Once the damage is done it cant be undone. As i found out once its there its there. I always thought it was a phase but now i am transgender on hormones but a lot happier woth my life. I have a very loving partner ...Male of course.i have never seen my self as gay but female.i only like men i have many female friends who accept me as i am.
Just be careful.
XX SAM XX
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| Re: Telling my Wife? |
Sat, 10 May 2008 16:50 |
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| Emma_27 wrote on Wed, 07 May 2008 18:37 |
Hi Bev,
Thank you for your comments, always good to hear from you.
My wife phoned me yesterday lunchtime, as she usually does, I asked her if she had bought my sundress, she replied that it was too far to walk. When I told her that it was very hot in my office (home) she asked if I was wearing shorts, I said no, she then said "a skirt" I replied yes, she just giggled.
But when she returned home and came into the garden, the first thing that she said was " disapointing" when I asked her what she meant she replied "you've got trousers on"!
Love Emma XX
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Well, it sounds to me like you may have lucked out and she will be receptive to this !! May even be turned on GASP !! LOL !!
Good luck to you !!
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| Re: Telling my Wife? |
Mon, 12 May 2008 10:07 |
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Hi Emma
My wife knows all about Lynne,and the difference it has made to our marriage as theres no lies and no deceit.the fun of going shopping together and discussing outfits or shoes.and the added bonus that she washes all Lynnes clothes so i dont shrink them lol.
Having said that, men in feminine attire isnt her thing so i dont dress in her presence. like all things in a marriage its a case of give n take.i hope everything works out for you hun
hugs Lynne x x x
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| Re: Telling my Wife? |
Wed, 14 May 2008 18:56 |
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Hi Emma, would love an update and hope its a happy one xx
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| Re: Telling my Wife? |
Fri, 16 May 2008 14:41 |
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Perhaps you could 'accidently' put on a pair of her panties one morning or go to a fancy dress party as a naughty schoolgirl
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